Friends, it's been a while since my last post. I needed a social media vacation. I recommend doing this now and then to focus on real life. Catch up on chores and projects. Yesterday I sorted through my treasure chest. Yes, I have a treasure chest. It is a hand-carved wooden chest from Malaysia and …
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Sexual Assault — Educate, Encourage, Reform
Trigger warning: this post contains graphic details of sexual assault. It wasn't easy for me to write and I don't think it will be easy to read. I wasn't surprised when another accuser came forward about the US Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh. One of the awful lessons of the #MeToo era is that where there …
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Processing Trauma is Hard for Everyone
To my loved ones: I understand that by sharing my story, I might make you feel sad or angry. Telling my story is part of a process of claiming space for grief and emotion that has been too long in darkness. I'm ok, I will be better, and I appreciate and love you all. Processing …
If Someone in Your Life Tells You a Story Like This Believe Them: Unfounded Assault Cases are Rare
It's a cool, rainy fall afternoon as I write this, not unlike that day 32 years ago. I imagine myself having a lazy day at home watching MTV. I remember walking toward the bathroom of my family's tiny home -- the one we had to move to when both my parents were diagnosed with life-threatening …