I Was 13 and They Looked at Me with Wolf Eyes

This blog contains triggers and may be upsetting to my loved ones. I'm sorry for that, but it is like Maya Angelou said in I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings: “There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” It’s the wolf eyes. The look that men have when they want… Continue reading I Was 13 and They Looked at Me with Wolf Eyes

Sexual Assault — Educate, Encourage, Reform

Trigger warning: this post contains graphic details of sexual assault. It wasn't easy for me to write and I don't think it will be easy to read. I wasn't surprised when another accuser came forward about the US Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh. One of the awful lessons of the #MeToo era is that where there… Continue reading Sexual Assault — Educate, Encourage, Reform

Processing Trauma is Hard for Everyone

To my loved ones: I understand that by sharing my story, I might make you feel sad or angry. Telling my story is part of a process of claiming space for grief and emotion that has been too long in darkness. I'm ok, I will be better, and I appreciate and love you all. Processing… Continue reading Processing Trauma is Hard for Everyone

If Someone in Your Life Tells You a Story Like This Believe Them: Unfounded Assault Cases are Rare 

It's a cool, rainy fall afternoon as I write this, not unlike that day 32 years ago. I imagine myself having a lazy day at home watching MTV. I remember walking toward the bathroom of my family's tiny home -- the one we had to move to when both my parents were diagnosed with life-threatening… Continue reading If Someone in Your Life Tells You a Story Like This Believe Them: Unfounded Assault Cases are Rare