Processing Trauma is Hard for Everyone

To my loved ones: I understand that by sharing my story, I might make you feel sad or angry. Telling my story is part of a process of claiming space for grief and emotion that has been too long in darkness. I'm ok, I will be better, and I appreciate and love you all. Processing … Continue reading Processing Trauma is Hard for Everyone

If Someone in Your Life Tells You a Story Like This Believe Them: Unfounded Assault Cases are Rare 

It's a cool, rainy fall afternoon as I write this, not unlike that day 32 years ago. I imagine myself having a lazy day at home watching MTV. I remember walking toward the bathroom of my family's tiny home -- the one we had to move to when both my parents were diagnosed with life-threatening … Continue reading If Someone in Your Life Tells You a Story Like This Believe Them: Unfounded Assault Cases are Rare 

Self-Help Topic 1 Adverse Childhood Experiences: Know Your ACE Score

I've got a few blogs lined up that fit within the broad category of self-help. I thought today I would make a start with ACE scores. If you experienced stressful, traumatizing events before age 18, as I did, you may be interested to know these events are commonly referred to as adverse childhood experiences or … Continue reading Self-Help Topic 1 Adverse Childhood Experiences: Know Your ACE Score

Mom would have been 43 on August 8 that year

If you know me, or if you have lost someone dear, this blog contains triggers. Please read only if you feel able. And perhaps with a cup of black coffee. Mom would like that. I was 17 the night my mother died. I didn't find out until the next morning because I was out all … Continue reading Mom would have been 43 on August 8 that year

Mini Musing: Exercise, Second-hand Smoke, Antidepressants

This is more of a mini musing than a blog. It appeals to me just now to frame these 3 quick facts as The Good, The Bad and The Ugly. 1 The Good: exercise in any form can improve your mental health. Whatever you are able to do helps, even if it is only a … Continue reading Mini Musing: Exercise, Second-hand Smoke, Antidepressants