As usual, I had to wait for that moment of inspiration to strike. Today, it was a young barista commenting on my graphic T which has the famed and often incorrectly attributed quote:
“Well-behaved women seldom make history.” (Laurel Thatcher Ulrich)
The barista said it was her favorite quote and we had a nice exchange. Driving home I wondered if she knew the context and if so, would it remain her favorite? Laurel Thatcher Ulrich is a feminist. I sometimes feel like that feminism and feminist are, in some circles, F-words.
When I was younger, I wanted to be an independent, successful woman but I distanced myself from the terms feminism and feminist. I’m not entirely sure why, but the general unease people seemed to have around the subject played a role. You can say f–k during a dinner party and people hardly bat an eyelash. Say feminist and see how many people look at the tablecloth.
What is it about human nature that makes us suspicious of groups we aren’t a part of? Is it the same factor/trait that makes some members of any group lean radical? Why are we drawn to the train-wreck stories in the media when a radical member of a group does something awful?
I know there are no easy answers to any of these questions. Learn more and decide what you believe. It won’t be easy to sort out good information. Lots of people have opinions to share and often they conflict, even when seemingly supportive of feminism, for example:
- We Sold Feminism to the Masses, and Now It Means Nothing (feminism is widely accepted) vs.
- How The Media Has Shaped Your Negative Perception of Feminism (feminism still experiences major backlash)
I don’t have any answers, but I will share that I can now say proudly, f–k yeah, I’m a feminist! I’ll try it out at our next dinner party. 😉